spot a bro WHO’S feeling low

It can often be tricky spotting a friend who’s struggling. This page will provide you with some useful approaches and suggestions.


Helping a friend is easy when you know how. Follow these four steps to let the conversation flow.

1 Ask

Start by mentioning anything different you’ve noticed. Maybe he’s spending more time at the bar, coming into work late, or missing social events.

“You’ve not quite seemed yourself recently. Are you okay?”

Trust your instinct. Remember, we often say “I’m fine” when we’re not. So if you think something’s wrong, don’t be afraid to ask twice.

2 Listen

Try to give him your full attention, without interruptions. Don’t feel you have to diagnose problems, offer solutions or give advice. Just let him know you’re all ears, judgement-free.

Follow-up questions are good too. They’ll help let him know you’re listening:

“That can’t be easy. How long have you felt that way?”

3 encourage

Help him focus on simple things that might improve how he feels. Is he getting enough sleep? Is he exercising and eating well? Maybe there’s something that’s helped him in the past – it’s worth asking.

Suggest that he share how he’s feeling with others he trusts. This will make things easier for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest that he chat to his doctor.

4 Check-In

Suggest you catch up soon – in person if you can. If you can’t manage a meet-up, make time for a call, or drop him a message. This helps to show that you care; plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.



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Further help & contacts


Support or information around depression and anxiety including accessing immediate support through the beyondblue Support Service and additional resources on suicide prevention

Conversations Matter

Conversations Matter resources assist communities to talk about suicide in ways that breaks down stigma and increase understanding and support for those thinking about suicide and/ or those affected by suicide.

MensLine Australia

A dedicated service for men with relationship and family concerns.

Kids Helpline

An Australia-wide 24/7 telephone and online counselling and support service for young people aged 5 to 25.


Offers information, support and services for young people aged 12 to 25.

Have the Conversation

A guide which explains how having a conversation can help people feel less alone and more supported in getting help for anxiety and depression.

Head to Health

Provides links to trusted Australian online and phone supports, resources and treatment options